🚫 Signs You’re in a Toxic Friendship (and What to Do Next)
- Jenny Beckman
- Aug 17
- 2 min read
When a Friendship Doesn’t Feel Like Friendship Anymore
d. Sometimes, what looks like closeness is actually draining, confusing, or even harmful. These are often signs of a toxic friendship — and recognising them is the first step toward protecting your wellbeing.
⚠️ Common Signs of a Toxic Friendship
Constant Criticism Disguised as “Honesty”
While healthy friendships involve openness, a toxic friend may regularly put you down, mock your achievements, or undermine your confidence.
One-Sided Effort
If you’re always the one making plans, reaching out, or offering support, but your friend never reciprocates, the imbalance can leave you feeling unappreciated.
Walking on Eggshells
Do you feel anxious about saying the wrong thing or fear your friend’s reactions? In a healthy friendship, you should feel safe to be yourself without judgement.
Jealousy and Competition
Instead of celebrating your wins, a toxic friend may try to outdo you or dismiss your successes, turning everything into a competition.
Emotional Drain
After spending time together, do you feel drained rather than uplifted? This can be a clear indicator that the relationship is taking more from you than it gives.
💡 What to Do Next
1. Acknowledge Your FeelingsTrust your gut. If the friendship leaves you feeling worse instead of better, it’s worth reflecting on why.
2. Set BoundariesHealthy boundaries protect your emotional energy. This might mean saying no more often, limiting time together, or being clear about what behaviour is unacceptable.
3. Communicate HonestlyIf it feels safe, share your concerns. Sometimes people aren’t aware of how their behaviour impacts others.
4. Seek Support ElsewhereNurture friendships that feel safe, supportive, and reciprocal. Building healthier connections will highlight how damaging a toxic friendship can be.
5. Know When to Walk AwaySometimes, the healthiest choice is letting go. Ending a toxic friendship isn’t easy, but prioritising your wellbeing is essential.
🌿 Choosing Friendships That Nurture You
Healthy friendships feel mutual, uplifting, and safe. If you’ve recognised toxic patterns in a relationship, know that you’re not alone — and you have the power to choose connections that truly support you. Therapy can help you build more nurturning and productive relationships. For a free introductory call, contact me here.
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